Doting Parents -- in my defense
April 3rd 2008 03:49
A Mother's Pride and Joy.
Not a lot will relate to this but I'm sure you've heard this or sometimes even had an unpleasant experience with a non-stop mom yapping about thier pride and joy -- even if all they did was potty by themselves.
I would've been one of those who found "petty" stories like these unpleasant and sometimes uncomfortable because really... learning to potty by themselves?
Now that I'm a mother I will beg to disagree. Yes I will be one of them you'd hate having those conversations with and find either boring or annoying because of all the bragging and doting about their kids.
Let me try and defend me and other proud parents out there.
FIRST. Any small or petty things our children do are OUR achievement, not necessarily the child's. We work hard trying to make sure they grow up normal and at least at par with how most children their age are developing. It is sometimes a constant worry especially for new parents if your child is developing properly or if something is possibly "wrong" with him, be it physical, psychological or even emotional.
SECOND. Do you even remember when you did these firsts? Children can't give you any progress "reports" and frankly you just can't be by their side every friggin time to tally and take down notes. Sometimes, they need to learn how to do things without you teaching them, no matter how much you love them. So when our children do something we didn't teach or expect they'd do at that time, it's a "Eureka!" moment for us parents. Any first is a Kodak moment, a Scrapbook moment, a journal moment -- I wish I had these so I can compare my progress versus my kid's. There isn't exactly any handbook for first time parents, no matter how many books are available out there -- no one thing works.
THIRD. They simply look so darn cute when they start doing or learning something new! See a little man actually sitting down a toilet and doing the #2 is cute. Seeing tiny feet with big bumbums and a disproportionate head walk without a second pair of legs walking behind time is just adorable. They tumble, they struggle and work hard to do something independently.
LAST. Seeing these things can tell you where your child is inclining to be. Seeing these firsts tell you just how independent your child can and is willing to be. Seeing them do these firsts is a sign you can slowly do more things you used to do -- like sleep a few more hours! Slowly, your child is giving you signs of what you can start letting go of, like diapers when he starts to potty, walkers and strollers when he starts to walk and even run.
There is one universal feeling when a parent sees his/her child start doing these things which makes them brag and dote about them. THAT, I don't think I can explain, but I know it gives us parents a natural high everytime
Not a lot will relate to this but I'm sure you've heard this or sometimes even had an unpleasant experience with a non-stop mom yapping about thier pride and joy -- even if all they did was potty by themselves.
I would've been one of those who found "petty" stories like these unpleasant and sometimes uncomfortable because really... learning to potty by themselves?
Now that I'm a mother I will beg to disagree. Yes I will be one of them you'd hate having those conversations with and find either boring or annoying because of all the bragging and doting about their kids.
Let me try and defend me and other proud parents out there.
FIRST. Any small or petty things our children do are OUR achievement, not necessarily the child's. We work hard trying to make sure they grow up normal and at least at par with how most children their age are developing. It is sometimes a constant worry especially for new parents if your child is developing properly or if something is possibly "wrong" with him, be it physical, psychological or even emotional.
SECOND. Do you even remember when you did these firsts? Children can't give you any progress "reports" and frankly you just can't be by their side every friggin time to tally and take down notes. Sometimes, they need to learn how to do things without you teaching them, no matter how much you love them. So when our children do something we didn't teach or expect they'd do at that time, it's a "Eureka!" moment for us parents. Any first is a Kodak moment, a Scrapbook moment, a journal moment -- I wish I had these so I can compare my progress versus my kid's. There isn't exactly any handbook for first time parents, no matter how many books are available out there -- no one thing works.
THIRD. They simply look so darn cute when they start doing or learning something new! See a little man actually sitting down a toilet and doing the #2 is cute. Seeing tiny feet with big bumbums and a disproportionate head walk without a second pair of legs walking behind time is just adorable. They tumble, they struggle and work hard to do something independently.
LAST. Seeing these things can tell you where your child is inclining to be. Seeing these firsts tell you just how independent your child can and is willing to be. Seeing them do these firsts is a sign you can slowly do more things you used to do -- like sleep a few more hours! Slowly, your child is giving you signs of what you can start letting go of, like diapers when he starts to potty, walkers and strollers when he starts to walk and even run.
There is one universal feeling when a parent sees his/her child start doing these things which makes them brag and dote about them. THAT, I don't think I can explain, but I know it gives us parents a natural high everytime
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Comment by Hazel Castillo
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well as what i've said, only moms will be able to fully understand why children are such precious gifts.